my family thinks they know what a relapse looks like. ngl they’re waiting for me to fall, slur words, stop moving, something visible and scary. they think “relapse” means you break in front of them. so when i get an MRI showing 3 new lesions but i’m still making breakfast and pretending work isn’t a nightmare, they don’t get it. “you look fine,” like the lesions are fake if my legs still work Tuesday. the invisible part is what kills explaining it… the fatigue that doesn’t match tired. the cognitive fog that shows up on tests but not to someone watching me talk… the relapse happening completely internally, EDSS shifts, lesion load jumps, while everyone’s watching me do normal things… my wife asks “is it bad?” and i’m standing there thinking, the MRI says yes but my body is lying. how do you say that? does anyone else feel like relapses happen in two places at once, what the tests show versus what people can actually see?