I need a sanity check from women who have been here.
My mother in law has been “helping” since we came home from the hospital. Week one I was grateful. Week two I started noticing things. She lets herself in with the key we gave her for emergencies. She rearranges my kitchen. She tells me the baby is “too cold” and puts a hat on him while I’m standing right there. She calls him by a nickname I specifically said I didn’t like.
But yesterday was the moment.
I was breastfeeding on the couch. He was actively latched. She walked in, said “oh let grandma take him for a snuggle,” and physically lifted him off my breast mid feed. Milk everywhere. Baby screaming. I sat there topless and shaking and she just walked away with him cooing about how grandma will fix it.
I cried in the bathroom for twenty minutes. When I told my husband he said “she means well, she raised three kids, can you just let it go for the sake of peace.”
I am not okay. I’m not crazy am I? This is not normal helpful grandma behavior. This is something else.
How did you all set actual boundaries when your husband won’t back you? Did you take the key back? Did it ruin the relationship? I love this family but I don’t recognize my own house anymore.