been away for a bit… so i’m wondering, does anyone else have issues with their in laws visiting too frequently after having a baby? my mil just showed up at our place yesterday without telling us, and it’s the third time this month. kenji’s 11 months now, and i feel like we’re finally getting into a routine, but these visits are really throwing us off.
i’m talking 3-4 hour visits, 3 times a week. it’s exhausting. i’ve tried talking to my dh about it, but he just says i should be grateful for the help. thing is, it’s not really help when it’s unannounced and disrupts our whole schedule.
i’ve been tracking my stress levels in careclinic, and it’s definitely spiked since these visits started. the symptom charts are actually pretty helpful for seeing the trend, but it’s not like it’s giving me any solutions. someone posted about this a while back, but i couldn’t find the thread. has anyone else found a way to set boundaries with their in laws without feeling guilty?
or am i just being unreasonable?