i’m 4 months pp and my dh sleeps through the 3am feedings every time. i’m starting to feel like i’m shouldering all the responsibility and it’s taking a toll on me.
does anyone else have a partner who sleeps through feedings? how do you handle it?
that feeling of it “taking a toll” is absolutely real, and it’s not just a feeling, it’s a measurable physiological event. The cumulative effect of fragmented sleep on stress hormones and cognitive load is something that builds up over time, and four months is a long time to be carrying that alone.
I think it’s worth separating the impact on you, which is undeniable, from his potential intent, which might be more complicated. Some people genuinely have a
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It may not be a malicious choice; some people genuinely sleep through anything short of a fire alarm. The conversation might need to be less about “shouldering all the responsibility” and more about the practical problem of what, specifically, will actually wake him up at 3am.