been away for a bit… fwiw so i’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. my dh is really good about helping out with kenji, but it’s always when i ask him to. like, he’ll do the dishes or watch the baby for a bit, but only if i specifically request it. i’m starting to feel like i’m shouldering all the mental load of remembering who needs to do what and when. does anyone else have this issue? where their partner is willing to help, but only if they’re asked? i feel like it’s not just about the physical help, but also about feeling seen and supported. i’ve been trying to track our daily routines and tasks in careclinic, just to see if there are any patterns or areas where we can improve, but i’m not sure if that’s really getting at the root of the issue. how do you guys handle this kind of thing?