Intimacy after 2 babies dunno

i’m 9 weeks pp with my second and i’m still figuring out how to reconnect with my dh… my mil keeps saying we need to make time for date nights but it’s hard when the toddler is regressing and the baby needs me all the time.

does anyone else feel like they’re losing their sense of self in all of this? how did you prioritize intimacy after having multiple kids?