been away for a bit… layla’s 11 months now and i’m still trying to figure out this sleep thing. some nights she sleeps through, but most nights she’s up at least twice.
my dh sleeps through everything and it’s honestly really frustrating. i feel like i’m doing all the work at night and he’s just sleeping peacefully. does anyone else deal with this?
how do you handle it when your partner sleeps through all the nighttime wakings?
the frustration of your partner sleeping through night wakings is real, and the cognitive load from chronic broken sleep is hard to quantify until it’s gone. but the “sleeps through everything” part might be less about choice and more about sleep architecture itself. some people genuinely have a deeper sleep cycle that makes them less responsive to external stimuli, which complicates the “who’s doing the work” framing when one person is physiologically wired to miss it.